19 year old guy dating a 17 year old
Usually when you get older, you become wiser and more mature, but it is all due to experience.
Many people think it is wrong for someone older to date someone younger because they have way too much experience for the younger person and this may allow them to take advantage of the younger person emotionally, but if the older person has the younger persons best interest at heart, then there is not anything wrong with it.
Everyone thought we were the same age because she looked young.
If I were to date someone 19 now, I would have the same reservations as you.
@ Fattie, I am not a native speaker, but isn't that contradictory to OP: "he must be thinking about starting a family, marriage, etc and her starting out in life." Well -- I feel that it totally contradicts the earlier "I can only think he's with her for one reason! My relationship with my wife lasted 16 years and produced 3 lovely children. However, as MY children reach their teenage years I of course see everything from the perspective as a parent.
I think the most important thing to do is not push your daughter away with any shouting matches or 'you are doing the wrong thing' this is what my mother did and although she was doing her best in a difficult situation - the shouting and threats simply pushed me away further.
This guy is no longer in school & asks out your 17 year old daughter. What do you think of a 19 year old that wants to date a girl still in high school ? Though she is not completely done growing up, its time to start letting go of the sentiment that she is a little girl.
They haven't met before now, so it's not a sweetheart thing. Even though I really wanted to hear from other parents (Thanks, Wyatt & Lexi, your remark about 2 different worlds really resonated! Thanks, Ana, you sound ages older and wiser than your 16.... I think that if this young man is honest, kind, and authentic then you shouldn't be any more worried than you would be if he was 17 or 18. If you hold her back or chastise her for going on a date with this guy, then she might build up a resentment towards you and make stupid choices just to spite you.
However, would it be considered weird if we went out due to the age gap?
I have just found out that my 17 year old daughter is going out with a local 25 year old. They haven't shared the same live experiences, they'll soon want different things, etc. I'm concerned that she'll get hurt, pregnant or that, even if they are truly in love, she'll end up growing up too quickly and miss out on things girls her age do like university, traveling, and building a career.
I just think that, at their ages, they cannot possibly have anything in common.
We are very happy and natural together when I let it flow. Years back, I dated a woman that was 12 years older than me.
We talk about a serious future together as we have very compatible life goals, but I worry him being with me is stopping him from experiencing other people and happiness in his life. It was a serious relationship which lasted just over 5 years.